James Thomas Aycock Jr.'s Obituary
WE GATHER HERE TONIGHT TO CELEBRATE THE LIFE OF JAMES THOMAS AYCOCK.
KNOWN TO ME AS DADDY, TO THE BOYS AS POPS OR DAD, TO MOM AS BABE, TO THE GRANDKIDS AS GRANDPA AND TO HIS FRIENDS AS JIMMY OR TANKMAN WHEN HE WAS IN THE SERVICE.
HE WAS BORN IN CHARLOTTE, N.C. ON APRIL 22 1953.
HIS CHILDHOOD WAS THE FOUNDATION FOR THE KIND OF MAN HE WOULD BECOME AND WHAT HE STOOD FOR.
HIS DAD WAS UNFAITHFUL AND HIS MOTHER ABANDONED THE FAMILY BECAUSE OF IT.
HE DECIDED TO LIVE WITH HIS GRANDMA RUBY WHO HE LOVED DEARLY.
AND SHE ALLOWED HIM THE FREEDOMS TO BE HIM!
ONE OF THE MOST INFLUENTIAL PEOPLE IN HIS YOUNG LIFE WAS A WW2 VET WHO RENTED A ROOM FROM RUBY.
DAD LOOKED UP TO THIS MAN AND THIS IS WHERE HE GOT HIS PASSION FOR ANYTHING WW2 THAT CONTINUED HIS ENTIRE LIFE.
DAD FELT MORE COMFORTABLE AROUND ADULTS THAN HE DID HIS OWN PEERS.
AND HAD AN ADULT FRIEND THAT HE BABYSAT FOR NAMED TERRY.
TERRY WAS A PROFESSIONAL ASTROLOGIST AND THIS IS WHERE HE GOT HIS INTEREST FOR ASTROLOGY AND ASTRONOMY.
HE ALSO LOVED CLASSICAL MUSIC AND WAS NEVER INTO MAIN STREAM MUSIC.
HE MET MY MOM ON A BLIND DATE WHILE ON A WEEKEND FURLOW OCT 6TH 1972.
A FRIEND HE MADE IN BASIC TRAINING (RAY EVERAGE) SET IT UP AND THEY WENT TO A DRIVE IN MOVIE.
MOM DID NOT LIKE DAD AT FIRST.
DAD GOT SICK DURING THE DATE.
WHEN THEY GOT BACK TO MOMS COUSIN JUDY'S HOUSE (RAY'S WIFE), MOM HELPED HIM THROUGH IT AND THEY JUST LAYED IN BED TALKING ABOUT THIER LIVES.
THEY FOUND THAT THIER LIVES WERE VERY SIMILAR AND DECIDED THEN THEY WANTED TO BE TOGETHER.
AS THEY LAY IN BED JUST CHATTING,
MOM MENTIONED SHE HAD HER PAPERWORK SHE NEEDED TO TURN IN SO SHE COULD GO INTO THE AIRFORCE AND DAD PROPOSED TO HER.
SHE SAID YES AND THEY WERE INSTANT BEST FRIENDS!
THEY WERE MARRIED NOVEMBER 19, 1972 IN A FULL CHURCH CERAMONY AND REMAINED MARRIED 47 YEARS.
HIS FIRST POST IN THE ARMY WAS GERMANY.AYERS KASERNE.
DAD WAS A TANKER AND LOVED GUNS!
DAD RENTED A 2 BEDROOM APT.IN NEIDERKLEEN WHERE DAVID WAS CONCIEVED AND LATER BORN IN FRANKFURT GERMANY MAY 17, 1974
NEXT POST WAS IN FORTHOOD TEXAS WHERE HE RENTED A MOBILE HOME IN COPPERAS COVE AND LATER BILLY WAS CONCIEVED AND BORN ON JANUARY 5TH 1976.
AT THIS TIME THE BOYS WERE PRETTY MUCH THIER LIFE AND FOCUS.
AND THIS IS WHEN STARWARS THE MOVIE CAME OUT AND THEY ALL LOVED IT SO MUCH AND STILL DO!
HE WENT BACK TO GERMANY WITHOUT THE FAMILY FOR A BIT.
NEXT STOP: FORTKNOX KENTUCKY, THIS IS WHERE I WAS CONCIEVED AND BORN :-) APRIL 26TH, 1980. 4 DAYS AFTER MY DADS BIRTHDAY.
WHEN HE GOT OUT OF THE ARMY WE MOVED TO FLORIDA TO BE CLOSER TO GRANMAW STELLA.
THIS IS WHERE HE RAISED HIS CHILDREN AND SPENT THE REST OF HIS DAYS.
HE WORKED AS A SECURITY GUARD FIRST AND WENT TO SCHOOL AT U.E.I.
THEN WORKED THE REST OF HIS CAREER AT CHROMALLOY CASTINGS WHERE HE LATER RETIRED FROM.
DURING MY CHILDHOOD, I REMEMBER DAD HELPING ME LEARN TO SKATE.
TAKING ME TO THE POOL.
AND ALWAYS BEING THERE.
HE NEVER MISSED WORK.
HE WAS VERY LOYAL, HAD A STRONG WORK ETHIC, WAS VERY DETERMINED AND STRONG WILLED.
I BELIEVE HE PASSED ON THOSE TRAITS TO US KIDS.
HE VOWED TO NEVER CHEAT OR ABANDON HIS FAMILY AND HE NEVER DID.
THEREFOR HE WAS A VERY SUCCESFUL FATHER AND HUSBAND AND PROVIDER.
HE GAVE OUR FAMILY STABILITY AND A SENSE OF SECURITY.
HE WORKED EVERY DAY SO THAT WE COULD HAVE THINGS.
HE LOVED HIS GUN HOBBY AND PEOPLE FROM ALL AROUND ASKED FOR HIS GUIDANCE AND HELP WITH THIER GUN ISSUES!
DAD ALWAYS HAD A SOLUTION, OF COURSE!
DAD WAS ALSO VERY RESOURCEFUL AND HATED WASING ANYTHING.
HE WAS CLEVER AND CRAFTY.
HE WAS FUNNY AND YOU COULD COUNT ON HIM TO BE THERE WHEN YOU NEEDED HIM.
HE WOULD ALWAYS LISTEN IF YOU WANTED TO TALK.
AND HE WANTED TO TALK ABOUT THINGS THAT INTERESTED WHOEVER HE WAS TALKING TO.
HE WOULD TALK ABOUT CAMMY AND GUNS WITH DAVID.
HE WOULD TALK ABOUT SCIENCE, STARS AND HAWII WITH BILLY AND TRISH.
HE WOULD TALK BUSINESS AND STRATAGY WITH ME.
HE FREQUENTLY SAID DONT PISS ON MY BACK AND TELL ME ITS RAINING.
WHEN HE RETIRED, HE ENJOYED MAKING THINGS FOR US TO REMEMBER HIM BY.
HE ENJOYED HIS GRANDCHILDREN IHILANI, KEALII AND KUUIPO.
HE ENJOYED SHARING HIS HOBBY OF MODELS WITH TYLER.
AND THEY WERE GETTING CLOSE AND HANGING OUT.
AND ONE YEAR DAD EVEN SHOWED UP TO ONE OF TYLERS BIRTHDAYS A WEEK EARLY!
HE WAS VERY INTERESTED IN HOW CAMMY WAS GROWING AND WHAT NEW THINGS HE WAS LEARNING!
THAT BOY WAS THE APPLE OF HIS EYE!
DAD WAS A FIGHTER AND FOUGHT TO THE END.
HE NEVER ACCEPTED A WHELCHAIR EVEN WHEN IT WAS SO PAINFULL TO WALK.
HE GAVE US EVERY MINUTE HE COULD.
WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS HOW MUCH EVERY SECOND MEANT TO ME.
HE IS SURVIVED BY:
HIS LOVING WIFE BARBARA AYCOCK
HIS FIRST SON DAVID AYCOCK, LEA AND CAMMY
HIS SECOND SON WILLIAM AYCOCK, PINEAPPLE PRINCESS (TRISH), IHI, KEALII AND KUUIPO
HIS DAUGHTER CRYSTAL ODONNELL, BILL, KELLY AND TYLER
AND OTHER GRANDKIDS JERAMY AND ALEX.
HE WAS MY DADDY.
HE TAUGHT ME LOYALTY, LOVE, STRENGTH AND HONOR AMONG OTHER THINGS.
HE ALWAYS MADE ME FEEL SAFE AND SECURE.
ALWAYS OFFERED A HAND WHEN I WAS IN NEED.
HE MEANT THE WORLD TO ME.
ILL MISS EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM.
HIS SMILE, HIS LAUGH, HIS HUGS, AND JUST HIM BEING THERE.
HE WAS AN INCREDIBLE MAN AND VERY PRECIOUS TO ME.
I AM PROUD TO SAY HE WAS MY DADDY!
AND I CHOOSE NOT TO SAY GOODBYE, BUT RATHER TO SAY SEE YOU LATER.
BECAUSE, I BELIEVE HE WILL BE WITH ME ALWAYS.
AND THANK YOU DADDY FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE EVER DONE FOR ME AND FOR US.
I LOVE YOU DADDY WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL. SEE YOU LATER.
XXXOOO
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